When I was young, I was involved in activities at school, girl scouts, sports – you name it! I didn’t really have friends come over. My dad was unpredictable with his behavior and drinking. You never knew what he was going to say or do. My neighbors were not always fans of ours since he always called the police on others around our block. Our house would get egged or TP’d frequently. It wasn’t a place that we could feel comfortable to hang out with friends. I want my children’s experience to be very different from mine.
People will tell me that I am crazy to have kids over all the time. It is chaotic and I always end up cleaning up a million Nerf gun darts and picking up all of the empty water bottles. Having a house full of noise is so much better than the deafening silence when they are not home.
Spring break is here and it isn’t the best weather, but it is not raining. That means that my kids are outside playing with the kids on our block. Everyday there are children outside playing basketball, baseball, or some made up kind of game in the front yard. They will have friends sleep over, the requests have been made and parents have been contacted. I know that I want my own time with my children, but I want them to be able to have time with their friends too. My home should be a safe place where they want to be with their friends, especially as they get older. This is very important to me.